"The Archer" // Adam Melchor // Sunny, Sunny Mornings

Good morning! :) Yes - it is true! I'm going to be trying to blog a lot more often just like I promised... which I think is super exciting so I hope you enjoy! Anyways, I'm currently sitting in this beautiful little part of campus, waiting for my 9:30am class to start, and listening to Adam Melchor. I came across Melchor over the summer when I was listening to Spotify's Mellow Morning playlist (which literally has an amazing array of songs - for sure go check it out). But anyways, the song "Real Estate" is on that playlist. If you're looking for a good cry, go hit that song up... lol! But so then after I moved down here to FL, I started listening to more of his stuff. One of my favorites (as of right now because I literally have ADHD when it comes to picking favorites) is called "The Archer". I love this one in particular because while it sounds like it would be devastating, it isn't actually that sad. The lyrics are so brilliantly written and the guitar in the background is so soothing. If you haven't already gathered, I'm a huge sucker for acoustic music!! :) Without further ado... let's dive into the lyrics and how they have affected me!

literally, Adam Melchor is such a cutie!!

Okay so it starts off very very sad --
"Wasted on the floor again and no one seems to mind. I can go back out and that would take up too much time. I'm still busy callin out your name wide eyes and face down on the pine. How I miss the colors of the leaves that grow in spring. And how you used to dance upon the rain and I would sing. How I'd give most anything to watch you twirl around for one more time....

I need more time.
I need more time."

So that is the first verse and chorus. And yes - very sad. But what I first noticed when I listened to this song was actually how wonderful this past love must have been that Melchor was singing about. Clearly, Melchor loved this former lover dearly and with his whole heart. There's something so wonderful and bittersweet about all the amazing memories that you have with a former lover that no one else can share your feelings with except the other part of that now broken relationship. And yes, I know this feeling because I've been there. It's this weird limbo between feeling sad that it's over but actually so beyond glad and thankful that all of it happened. You don't want to go back and change a thing because all you want to do is remember your relationship for what it was and remember them for who they were when you were in love. And I think that is exactly what Melchor is getting at in this song; "How I'd give most anything to watch you twirl around for one more time" is emphasizing how much he must be missing this past love because all he wants is to see this person again.

good things have to end too :/

The chorus is really what hits me too. "I need more time. I need more time" and from what I interpreted, Melchor is saying that he needs more time to process that this relationship is truly over. Notice how I didn't say "he needs more time to get over the fact that this relationship is over" because in my honest opinion, I really don't think we ever 100% "get over" people. If we did, I think that we would be doing a disservice to ourselves, the significant other, and the entirety of your relationship together. Even when people do move on and go out with new people, it is not like they have forgotten about all the wonderful things that have happened in the past relationship... and if this is the case, well then I'm not sure it was a good relationship in the first place. But either way, "getting over" people just seems so awful to say. Yes, you move on and maybe now you don't start sobbing whenever you see an old picture of you guys together... but that doesn't mean you won't ever think of them and smile (like not in a romantic way) and wish them all the best in life. At least, that is what I think about for relationships that have ended in my life.

I think the most beautiful part about this song is that Melchor acknowledges that "needing more time" to move on is healthy and 100% normal. Melchor is explaining this by repeating the simple phrase in the chorus because although it might sound nice and easy to do, moving on from a past relationship is not easy at all. It takes time, grace, and patience with yourself and your heart because you're going to be so hurt that you'll feel like some days, you cannot even get out of bed. You'll also feel like there's absolutely no way that you'll ever feel like yourself again... but then suddenly, it'll be like half a year later, and you'll be able to look at pictures, say their name, or recall times you spent together without crying. You'll smile instead because you'll know for sure know that during that wonderful time when you were together, life was so good and you were so blessed with such a genuine love. And while that love is over, really, the memories will never die. There will also be times that you might feel super sad... but that's only natural! Again, I'm not saying that this is the way that all loves end... some of them might be rockier than others and maybe you don't even want to think about your ex every again, but as they say, time heals all wounds... and I believe that this is true. :)

time; we all need more of it... 

Have a beautiful day!! Thanks for reading :)
Sleep good and hold tight,
Sarah

Photo Links:
https://substreammagazine.com/2019/07/adam-melchor-joyride-video/, Photo by Kelly Sikkema on Unsplash, Photo by Jon Tyson on Unsplash